This is part two to “Pain is guaranteed, but Healing is Optional“, I pray that you have read that post, if not, it’s sure to bless you as it deals primarily with setting our minds and hearts in a place to be healed, by refusing to re-filter the lies, and accusations through our minds, but rather feeding our minds the things that are true, noble and of good report. If you haven’t read ”Pain is guaranteed, but healing is optional”, I sincerely suggest that you do.
The choices to healing…
We have to forgive; we have to give up the pain before any apologies, and we have to pardon the “guilty” before justice is rendered. We have to relinquish the hurt that screams and demands for our offenders punishment. It can seem like we’re agreeing with our offenders, or not “valuing” ourselves enough to pursue their prosecution, that couldn’t be further from the truth. Ultimately, forgiveness is releasing the person from our charges, so that God can take up His, He’s the only Judge not us. Before Him we all must give account, no one will give account to us, and us to no one. (Mat 6:12,14)
We have to bless them; during our prayer times we have to choose to bless them. To ask the best that God has for them and really mean it. We should pray for them to have long life, wealth, joy, peace and love. Pray for their salvation; that they would know the Truth and fullness of God’s love in Jesus. What I have found is that while I was blessing them, I was also blessing myself. What do I mean, it used to be said “to hold a man down you have to stay down with him”, if we’re slinging curses, instead of blessings, those curses will hurt us too. Furthermore, the Apostle James said that we shouldn’t use our mouths to bless and curse, how can we justify retaining the thoughts in our minds. (Mat 5:44, James 3:10)
We have to walk in love; we have to resist the urge to build up the walls of defense, or pick up the carnal weapons of warfare! Hurt wants to build up walls to defend, and bitterness wants to pick up weapons to protect and attack. We have to walk in love, not reviling those who revile us, returning good for evil. Honestly, walking in love has been the reason my past attackers were able to get close enough to hurt like they have, but for every one that has used it against me, I have been blessed by God and others beyond numbering. To “walk in love” is not to kill off our reasoning or to walk ignorantly as “simpletons” the bibles warns against that, plus our love should grow in knowledge and discernment. (Phil 1:9, Eph 5:2)
We have to remind ourselves…
That God see’s, knows and will reward all (including us) according to their works. God will not be mocked whatever a man sows that he will reap. We have to remind ourselves what Jesus suffered at the hands of sinners, His Passion, surpasses our pain. He was the completely innocent, sin free, who humbled Himself to the point of a completely, excruciatingly painful and wrongful death for you and me. (Heb 12:1-3)
Here’s where I read Fox’s Book of Martyrs, and here’s where I get confronted with the reality that there are those who have had their flesh torn with metal and stone, and me I’m just dealing with words. This is where we can level the seemingly insurmountable hurt-field, and overcome! Yes, pain is pain, equally real, but I find my perspective is better when I realize what I’m dealing with, mere words. Additionally, reflect on the life of Paul and His sufferings in the flesh at the hands of his countrymen, and remember that all of the orignal eleven except John, died a martyr’s death. You can also read Tortured for Christ, the story of Pastor Richard Wurmbrand.
We have to commit ourselves…
We have to commit ourselves to the One that judges righteously. When the dust has settled, who can give a righteous judgment in the midst of lies and “he said, she saids” who can fully exonerate you and punish the “evil doer”. It’s great when the truth reigns, but more often people believe lies and are deceived. We have to commit ourselves, just like Jesus did, to God the Father who alone judges righteously, and stop pleading our case to “man”. (1 Pet 2:23)
There’s so much more that can be said, and this is by far not the “end of all discussion” please chime in with a comment, they’re welcomed. However, what I’ve listed here is not “theory” its real life choices that can be made to heal us, after the storm of pain and hurt has entered our lives. Again, I have purposely not put in the Spirit’s role in our healing, because I wanted to focus on the active choices we must make to be healed.
Pain is guaranteed, but healing is a choice, my prayer is that we’d all choose healing and actually make the choices to get us there. In Jesus name, Amen.
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